'To love oneself is the beginning of a life long romance.' Oscar Wilde
To love oneself is to be happy with who we are and how we are physically spiritually and mentally. Is to accept ourselves with our attributes and imperfections, is to feel worth of love, affection, forgiveness and all the good we would desire for the ones we love.
Loving oneself however, can at times be a very difficult thing to do, even more if our past experience includes abuse, rejection, neglect chronic illness and mental or physical disability.
From a very young age we begin to form an idea of who we are and our capabilities through the feedback of others close to us such as our parents and teachers. Whether they have told us that we are naughty or good, loving or terrible, capable of performing something or useless it all contributes for the formation of self-concept.
This self-image attained in childhood by the age of 7 years, is later used as the bases of personality development and character. If we have mostly been praised for our achievements we will become achievers if we have been criticised for not achieving as much as it was expected of us, we will lack confidence in undertaking any big project due to fear of failing or simply believe that we do not have the capability to deal with them in first place.
If people have suffered any sort of abuse in childhood they often think of themselves as worthless and in some cases experience guilt. As an adult they can some times find it hard to trust, have difficult relationships, live in fear and isolation. They plan their life and make decisions based on the past negative experience and are unable to move on emotionally.
When we think of ourselves as the sum of our experiences and failures we are not aware that that image is not real and by far does not match our capabilities in life as we may have unexplored resources within ones mental and physical ability. Illness for instance, coping with certain diagnosis brings out of us strengths we never though we had. Disability through an accident or others, demands a readjustment to life that often can only be achieved by changing our beliefs and attitudes. It's more likely that the obstacle between the disability and what we want is not the disability itself but our own believes about how it disable us and this is also the case for many other circunstances in life.
How can life be a pleasant experience when we drag ourselves along with such a heavy load and continuously self-sabotage due to fear and lack of confidence? Why run your mental programme based on an installation from you childhood which is in desperate need for an update and change of perspective?
In order to experience life to the full and function well physically, mentally and spiritually, you need to free yourself from all things that hold you down, that take away your positive energy and self belief, you need to break free from your negative past (if you have one), your contra productive thoughts, bad habits, even you tedious job, abusive relationship or jealous friends, most of all you need to build your self-confidence and stop sabotaging your own future.
In our sessions together, we will explore self perception, awareness of how you perform, learn and keep motivated, look at past events and what to learn from them through Time Line Therapy, building of self confidence, outcomes and goal setting techniques, affirmations, anchors and self-hypnosis.
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